We spend a good deal of time modeling and teaching problem-solving; particularly in the context of the cabin group that brings together boys from varying backgrounds, with a range of personalities. Our counselors are continually modeling the good listening and consensus building necessary to peaceful living. When there is a problem, we don’t merely sweep it aside hoping that it goes away. We talk through the relevant issues, making sure each person involved has a voice and is heard. This process teaches boys that problems are a real part of life and need not be ignored. It teaches the value of calm talk, of listening, and of the existence of different perspectives with equal weight to one’s own. Boys develop alternative problem solving strategies and conflict resolution skills in an atmosphere of support and safety.